By Shari L. Shapiro, Executive Director, Kids In Crisis
At recess, one child stood on the edge of the playground, watching the others run, climb, and laugh. She wanted to join in, but the fear of not being accepted kept her rooted in place. A counselor noticed, walked over, and asked, “What’s the hardest part for you?” That small conversation opened the door to a bigger truth: she was experiencing social anxiety. Over time, she practiced taking small steps toward connection, and discovered the joy of belonging.
That’s the thing about young children: their big feelings don’t always come out in words. Sometimes it looks like stomachaches or headaches, sometimes tears at drop-off, and sometimes quiet withdrawal that goes unnoticed. As parents, teachers, or neighbors, it can be easy to miss the signs. But if we pay attention, these are early signals that a child might need support.
In recent years, more and more elementary schools have reached out for help. Principals and teachers are seeing what parents are seeing, that younger children are carrying anxiety, sadness, or worry that feels too big for their small shoulders. At Kids In Crisis, we’ve responded by placing master’s level counselors directly into elementary schools through our KidTalk program. Unlike in middle or high schools, where our work often focuses on the students themselves, KidTalk includes a lot of coaching and partnering with parents. We know that when families learn tools together, kids thrive.
Right alongside KidTalk, we also offer SafeTalk: an empowerment program for students in kindergarten through fifth grade. Through interactive discussions and role plays, children practice how to handle real-life situations: standing up to bullies, staying safe around strangers, and knowing what to do if someone crosses a boundary. It’s about giving kids the language and confidence to protect themselves, while reassuring them that trusted adults are always there to help.
Why does it matter so much at this age? Because the elementary years are a critical window for prevention. Studies show children are six times more likely to complete treatment in school-based settings than in community clinics. And a 2024 survey revealed that 85% of parents of elementary-age children reported noticing concerning signs about their child’s emotional well-being at least once a month. These aren’t isolated stories, they reflect a larger reality.
So, what can you do if you’re worried your child is struggling?
Watch for patterns, not just moments. Everyone has a rough day, but repeated headaches, stomachaches, or changes in sleep or appetite can signal something more.
Name the feelings. Saying, “It seems like you’re nervous about school,” helps children learn the language of emotions. Even if you’re not sure, guessing shows you’re paying attention.
Build small routines of calm. A five-minute bedtime chat, drawing together, or a walk after dinner gives kids a steady rhythm and a chance to talk.
And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. For families, knowing that help exists right in your community can make all the difference. Whether it’s a KidTalk counselor at school, a SafeTalk workshop in your child’s classroom, or our 24/7 Helpline, there are safe, caring adults ready to listen.
The good news is that children are resilient. With the right support, they can learn coping skills, find their voice, and grow into emotionally healthy teens and adults. Every time we step in early, we’re not just helping a child get through today, we’re giving them tools for a lifetime.
If you notice your child—or any child—struggling, don’t wait for it to pass. Reach out. Our 24/7 Helpline is available at 203-661-1911. Sometimes just talking through what you’re seeing with a professional can help you take the next right step.
Because no child should have to face anxiety alone. And with caring adults around them, parents, teachers, librarians, counselors, and neighbors, they don’t have to.
